Tuesday, November 12, 2013

It’s nice to be nice

barely related, I love this guys

I feel like social media has a lot of potential to make real, positive impact on people’s lives. And it also has a lot of potential to make an ugly, hurtful impact on people’s lives. It’s so easy to send a tweet, post a status, send a text or email, and really hurt or help someone. And sometimes it is even easy to forget that we have any impact at all. It seems like we are just typing buttons and sending stuff out into nowhere.

So all I’m saying is, it's nice to be nice. 

To remembering that people have feelings.

That we can do stuff to help instead of hurt. 

I’m not saying we can’t disagree with people. Or even just plain not like people. Or have different ideas. But we can disagree or have different ideas in a nice, respectful manner. Yeah, it is true. I might not always succeed at this, but I've heard it is totally possible.

Anyway, here is a really cool study and practice to help in this area.

Loving Kindness Meditation and Change
Where many meditation techniques encourage students to explore difficult feelings or emotions directly, in loving-kindness the invitation is to send well wishes to oneself (who is in distress) as well as the other (who we feel distress toward). This isn't meant to suppress the feelings as they arise, but instead it can be thought of as a soothing balm, something gently placed on a wound for healing.
And people who practice this meditation, in separate research studies, experienced reduced inflammation and depression. What is more, this practice impacted the brain, especially in the area that is associated with empathy and well being.

Above is a YouTube video that will walk you through a Loving Kindness Meditation. So basically, it will make you a healthier, happier, nicer person. So what is not to like?

Yeah. Do it.


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